DOES CONSISTENCY MEANS ANYTHING TO US?

Hi,

What a fine morning today. My routine activities continues - making sure my children ready for school. I need to drop my elder son at the McDonald stop by 6.15 am every morning. Back from there I need to get my younger son ready because he need to be at school by 7am. He dislikes of getting to school late - I think because of years of practicing going to school early!!!

On the way to my younger son's school, we have a very nice chat about being consistent. Actually it is about a man who parked his MPV inconsiderately. 

We saw his MPV was parked just around the road curb and making the visibility of other motorists a little bit dangerous. I just told my son that to be consistent in what ever we were doing is not easy ea....

Take that man as an example. We do not know for what reason he parked his MPV at the curbs. But what we do know is that to be consistent in our life is tough. At one moment we say something good and ethical but at the other we shows something different if not contradicted. The example that he has showed was completely contradicted to what he supposed to demonstrated.

There's something more interesting to talk about about this incident. I know that guy was dropping his children to board the bus to the school - Islamic school in Johor Bahru, Malaysia. I am pretty sure the objectives of him to enroll his children to that school is that to get the most of Islamic environment. Unfortunately he was unintentionally have showed some contradictions to his main objectives. At least his kids have learned something unethical that you can do what ever you want as long that suit you or making yourself comfortable.

The children need consistent example to grasp the whole idea of learning. Subject matters perhaps have been disseminated clearly and seriously by the teachers at school. Actually what the children needs is that the environment which consistent to what they have been taught by their teachers. That is how Islam is been recognised - a way of life !!!!!!

There are no separation between learning and information acquired - like what we always expected on the consistency between theory and practice...hahaha...Separating them means a lot to the learning process.

To me I always striving the best of me to being good in my life especially in inspiring my children's learning.

They means a lot to me. In fact I have learned so much from them.

Bye for now and thank you.

LEARNING IN CHILDREN

Hi folks,

We sometimes so eager in educating our children. Most of the time we anxiously expect our children to absorb, to practice and to grow up with what ever we have teaching them. Our expectation most of the time was clouded by our expectation without considering who is our children, what they are, how they learn, and so on.

If we look back to what being said by Piaget we know that children develop according to the stages. In this sense we really need to understand what stages our children are at. We don't need to be a psychologist to understand this but I would it is a basic requirement for everyone before they can become a parent. Without this I think we tend to impose if not forcing, the behaviours or attitudes to be practiced by our children.

My children for example, I can see the differennce between them. My eldest is a girl now age 18. My elder son is a boy and now age 14, and my youngest is a boy and he is 12. They are always be my inspiration in experiencing the parent's responsibility.

If I talk to my eldest something that little bit abstract, my youngest  will struggling to get what we were talking about. And my elder son although a bit struggle but managed to grasp the story clearly and even share the thought together. In the other way, when we were talking about something concrete and visible all of them can understand and start sharing experiences even share our laugh together.

Now I can talk something related to possibilities easily to my eldest one as well as to my elder son but still need some explanation and elaboration to my youngest. He still struggling to see the connection between being good in academic to getting a good job or a good pay in future. That is why in many occassion we need to 'push' him little bit to engage in his study which I noticed less to his brother. 

However, his logical thinking and associating was already appeared way back when he still five. He was saying "this pool will be like an ocean to this turtle". He was swimming in our small pool (pool that only at his waist depth which actually nor for swimming...hahaha) with his little turtle. He can associate the connection between the turtle size and the size of the pool. To him yes the pool is small, but not to his tiny little turtle....haha...I like the way he played with his turtle.

Anyway, the story above shows that children have a lot of potential to be explored both by him or by us as an adult. It just a matter of willingness and awareness of him and us to explore that. In his case it is me who need to recognise his potential at the first place before I can start guiding him recognising his potential. 

Well, it is fun though to be a parent...observing the children growing up. Everyday will be different because the perspectives are different. I love you guys...you are all my inspiration...sharing experience with you day by day make our life fruitful...always wish you all the best in what ever you guys are doing.

To all wish you happy educating....
Taste every bit of the challenges of bringing up our children...you will see the difference...hahaha

Thank you...

SHOULD EDUCATION BE STARTED EARLY?

Hi guys,

I was amazed with what was happening last friday morning. I was walking heading back home with my elder son after jogging. We were chatting along the way, and I think it was a very good moment for both of us where we shared laugh together especially about doing physical activities. 

He actually being dismissed from school because of PMR exam at his school. Every time exam start there will be some classes will be dismissed - i think just because of the attention and quiet time that the PMR examinees are needed. And for my son he really 'enjoy' the morning because going for jogging with me meaning he will 'missed' his sleeping after Subuh prayer....hahahaha...

When we were passing one of our neighbour houses, we were greeted by a young kid, very young I think not more than 5 years old by saying "hello uncle", many times. We just greeted back by saying "hello" back and "bye bye". I really amazed with that moment. Kids as young as that knows how to greet and befriend with his neighbour. That was the first time I was greeted by the boy actually.

That moment recalled me to the process of educating young generation. Piaget mentioned about the stages of development. Whereas Bandura did mentioned about observational learning. I think both were reflected clearly from that moment.

The boy would not be able to greet if he haven't been taught to do so. Well done to his parents!! My understanding is clear that if we want to inculcate positive attitude and behaviours in children it need to be done as early as possible. And of course the adult will play important roles in this situation. As father or mother or even the adult member of the society, it is their jobs and responsibilities not just to educate them but also to promote good examples to the children. Without this I think the process of learning good and positive behaviours will be more complicated.

In other words regardless of who they are, what races they are from, which belief they are embraces, the process of inculcating good behaviours and attitudes is pretty much the same. In fact in Islam it is clearly stated that the process need to be done as early as the baby still in the womb! We as parents or as adults in society should aware this all the time so that the process of educating young lad to become useful citizens is started early.

That's all for now and have a nice day.

Thank you.