ABANDONING OR LEAVING

Hi everyone...

Meet again.

We have been struck with very sad yet disappointing news lately in the news about little kids died because of choking in the car. It is very very disappointed incidents really.

Sometimes we tend to forget that the little kids are always require supervision. What ever they do, or think, or even speak they need to be supervised and guided. Without close supervision that could misled or any serious things like this to happen.

There are several issues that we can propose in discussing these incidents. I would like to explore in two fundamental issues.

Firstly, is about our capability of becoming a parent to a child (children). Now it is clear that to become a parent is not just about giving them food, shelter, clothes, but it is more. Look back to what Islam has to say about it. Being a parent means everything. It is about "amanah". When we use this word it implies many thing. 

How ready we are before becoming a parent, or even before we get married. It need skills though to make us really capable enough to be a person called father or mother. In every occasion we need to be well equipped with the parenting skills. Knowledge about child development for instance is crucial to us because that can tell us about how the child is develop. In fact there is no reason for us to say "it is not so important" since we requires that in bringing them up.

Allow me to relate the incidents by looking back to the child development. How do we get to know that 3 years of age children able to do what ever an adult do. The child might be able to open the door by themselves if we ask them to. I think we know this very well and in fact we always ask them to do by themselves at home after comes back from shopping for example. But how do we know that they also able to open the door if they need to. 

Being left in the car make them choked. How do we educate them when in that situation the simplest thing to do is to open the door to let the air flow. At this stage actually they still yet to develop that kind of thinking ability - relating one situation to another in solving specific problem like choking!!!!
We need to understand this, their thinking ability and so on.

Secondly, which words are more appropriate in referring to these incidents. I have two suggestions anyway - "abandoning" or "leaving". Although it is quite similar in terms of meaning, but taking the children's thinking ability the meaning brings different understanding. It depends on how we see the situations really - the parent's actions and attitudes toward the behaviour, whether their action can be classify as abandoning or leaving the kids in the car. Do they really understand their roles and responsibilities!!!!!!!!!

Taking this situation into context it is clear that being a parent requires us to equip ourselves with several fundamental skills that the parent should have. It means that every single of individuals need to make sure they have the skills long before they start to think to get married. Lack of information should not be an issue anymore because all can be acquired easily nowadays. Information can be accessed easily, bookstore just around street, formal and informal courses are also available.

Just for deep personal consideration I guess....
We just don't want to regret to something bad just because of our carelessness and ignorance. Be a wise person before we can start thinking of producing another wise person.

As what Prophet PBUH has always did...wise person will only be developed from another wise person!!!!!!!!!

Thank you.