Hi folks...
One thing that I found so difficult to do was admitting our own mistakes. Not to mention of the willingness of accepting criticisms, admitting mistakes are not an easy job to do.
In learning, we know that before we started to consider of doing the improvement we need to admit the mistakes that we have committed first. After then we start to think of correction plan and activities related to the mistakes.
I always reminded my children the connection between mistakes and improvement. Just like what Alfred has said to the young Bruce...why he fall..because he can learn to pick himself up....
Even in Islam it is clearly stated that the process of reflection need to be done all the time continuously. Today supposed to be better than yesterday...and tomorrow should be better than today. What ever we say, reflecting on the past, especially on the mistakes that we have committed is crucial for the betterment of our lives.
We sometimes failed to see the importance of mistakes in learning. Seems that we afraid to allow our learner of making mistakes. Piaget did mention about equilibrium and disequilibrium in the mind. Both are important in stimulating the learner's learning process. Mistakes in this sense will allow the learner to see the learning in more comprehensive manner...what gone wrong...why...how...or even to the extent of how to avoid making same mistakes for second or several times. The process of maturity will not be developed not until the learner able to see the problem in more comprehensive manner.
Taking the point that nobody in perfect...this understanding I think is important to the learning. Too much emphasise to the mistakes will only enhancing the chances of developing fear and afraidness among learners. In fact in learning those feelings and attitude should not be encouraged. The dangerous parts is that we develop the feeling of fear without intention....
Wise guidance in terms of mistakes tolerance is needed I would say. In terms of learning the robust personality in dealing with mistakes and improvement is the ultimate challenge for us.
Lets try how we can educate our children while dealing with the mistakes...
Thank you.
Sunday, 30 September 2012
BOND BETWEEN PARENTS AND CHILD
Hi Guys...
When we say that the relationships between the learner and the teacher is crucial, much need to be discussed as this can be understood in many ways.
I found that the bond between father and the children can be developed in various ways. I just want to share my little experience of developing the bonds between me and my children. I found that the connections need to be as close as possible. By having this we can transmit a lot of information and skills they require.
Having said that in my case I developed the connection in a very funny situation. Actually I cut my son's hair myself. I am not doing that to my daughter since my barber's skills is just for men....hahaha... I have done that since they were young...I mean when they started to have hair....hahaha....I cut their hair myself ever since. They likes my cutting style so far as until now they still wanted their hair to be cut by me. Although this practice is not done intentionally but later I found that does really nice in developing bond between me and my children.
Its an interesting time really when I managed to get to talk to them personally and closely. While trimming their hair I can talk to them...giving advice..sharing ideas...arguing things...and sometimes we share laugh together. Teasing out and joking are among other things we were engaging in and don't be surprised I managed to get to know so many stories about them. We learn many common things among ourselves....
I found that although I am quite strict in rules and activities they have no problem in observing and following the standard that I have set. I don't know so far because this have yet to be seen not until they reaches the specific levels like career world. I hope all we have done although unintentionally will be worthwhile and have positive impacts especially in the long run.
Lessons that I have learned from this is that we normally find so difficult to have a quality time with our children but by having this kind of activity I am sure that there are so much fun can be shared and to be explore with and at the same time the process of conveying messages will becomes effective.
Ok that's all for now..
Thank you.
When we say that the relationships between the learner and the teacher is crucial, much need to be discussed as this can be understood in many ways.
I found that the bond between father and the children can be developed in various ways. I just want to share my little experience of developing the bonds between me and my children. I found that the connections need to be as close as possible. By having this we can transmit a lot of information and skills they require.
Having said that in my case I developed the connection in a very funny situation. Actually I cut my son's hair myself. I am not doing that to my daughter since my barber's skills is just for men....hahaha... I have done that since they were young...I mean when they started to have hair....hahaha....I cut their hair myself ever since. They likes my cutting style so far as until now they still wanted their hair to be cut by me. Although this practice is not done intentionally but later I found that does really nice in developing bond between me and my children.
Its an interesting time really when I managed to get to talk to them personally and closely. While trimming their hair I can talk to them...giving advice..sharing ideas...arguing things...and sometimes we share laugh together. Teasing out and joking are among other things we were engaging in and don't be surprised I managed to get to know so many stories about them. We learn many common things among ourselves....
I found that although I am quite strict in rules and activities they have no problem in observing and following the standard that I have set. I don't know so far because this have yet to be seen not until they reaches the specific levels like career world. I hope all we have done although unintentionally will be worthwhile and have positive impacts especially in the long run.
Lessons that I have learned from this is that we normally find so difficult to have a quality time with our children but by having this kind of activity I am sure that there are so much fun can be shared and to be explore with and at the same time the process of conveying messages will becomes effective.
Ok that's all for now..
Thank you.
MEANING IN LEARNING
Hi guys,
I managed to play tennis today. After a long break of playing I finally came to the court and play a set...single game set!!!! Incredible. I didn't realised that I still can play tennis that well. Thanks to Ken (Visiting Professor from Edith Cowen University, Australia). This time around he successfully beat me. He lost in our last meeting and managed to 'revenge' this time. 'Thanks' to my racquet which strings got snapped right before we begin the match (Not an excuse though). If I am using my own racquet the result would have been the same like last time...haha...sorry Ken. But anyhow, your game was tremendously improved especially on your service and backhand.
I am actually would like to say little bit about meaning. In learning 'meaning' is everything. Teaching can be considered as effective and successful if it can create meaning to the learner. Without meaning there will be no interest in learning. The learner cannot see the purpose of learning in specific which make them lost interest or even worst.
One of my friend was asking about some decisions that he need to be making. Perhaps I got that wrong but the way he asked seems to me was more to his understanding but not to me. Although I do understand what he was trying to say but the way he was asking does not consider the understanding of the person which he was asking to.
"Boleh tak aku ambil kabinet kalau aku jual rumah (Can I take the cabinet if I sell my house)"
At the beginning I didn't get he meant but later after some digestions and clarifications I managed to understand it. He actually referring to whether he can take his kitchen which mean not included in the selling agreement. Or in other words the house is sold without kitchen cabinet.
Interesting really when I relate this situation to learning. How do learner to find the learning as important if we failed to create meaning the learning itself. Learner will be more attracted to something where they found it interesting and have meaning to themselves. In other words making meaning to the learning is crucial if we about to make the learning fun and effective.
Sometimes or perhaps most of the time we just think about ourselves as the teacher. That is why we always struggling in encouraging the learning among our learners. What more important is that how we consider the learning activities according to the learners need and understanding. Without this I don't think the learning can be delivered effectively.
Even sometimes people say that...if we want to understand our learner's understanding and feelings try put on their shoes...By doing so at least we can get to know how the learning should be delivered.
Okay...that's all for now.
Being a teacher does not necessarily ignoring the needs of the learner. A good teacher is also supposed to be a good learner at the same time.
Thank you.
I managed to play tennis today. After a long break of playing I finally came to the court and play a set...single game set!!!! Incredible. I didn't realised that I still can play tennis that well. Thanks to Ken (Visiting Professor from Edith Cowen University, Australia). This time around he successfully beat me. He lost in our last meeting and managed to 'revenge' this time. 'Thanks' to my racquet which strings got snapped right before we begin the match (Not an excuse though). If I am using my own racquet the result would have been the same like last time...haha...sorry Ken. But anyhow, your game was tremendously improved especially on your service and backhand.
I am actually would like to say little bit about meaning. In learning 'meaning' is everything. Teaching can be considered as effective and successful if it can create meaning to the learner. Without meaning there will be no interest in learning. The learner cannot see the purpose of learning in specific which make them lost interest or even worst.
One of my friend was asking about some decisions that he need to be making. Perhaps I got that wrong but the way he asked seems to me was more to his understanding but not to me. Although I do understand what he was trying to say but the way he was asking does not consider the understanding of the person which he was asking to.
"Boleh tak aku ambil kabinet kalau aku jual rumah (Can I take the cabinet if I sell my house)"
At the beginning I didn't get he meant but later after some digestions and clarifications I managed to understand it. He actually referring to whether he can take his kitchen which mean not included in the selling agreement. Or in other words the house is sold without kitchen cabinet.
Interesting really when I relate this situation to learning. How do learner to find the learning as important if we failed to create meaning the learning itself. Learner will be more attracted to something where they found it interesting and have meaning to themselves. In other words making meaning to the learning is crucial if we about to make the learning fun and effective.
Sometimes or perhaps most of the time we just think about ourselves as the teacher. That is why we always struggling in encouraging the learning among our learners. What more important is that how we consider the learning activities according to the learners need and understanding. Without this I don't think the learning can be delivered effectively.
Even sometimes people say that...if we want to understand our learner's understanding and feelings try put on their shoes...By doing so at least we can get to know how the learning should be delivered.
Okay...that's all for now.
Being a teacher does not necessarily ignoring the needs of the learner. A good teacher is also supposed to be a good learner at the same time.
Thank you.
Friday, 21 September 2012
OBSERVATIONAL LEARNING AGAIN...
Assalamualaikum...
Wish you all with happy life under His Blessings...
Its again about observational learning. I was taught by my parents, my teachers how important observation to the learning process. In fact in Islam its clearly stated when Rasulullah PBUH when he about to teach about performing solat. He requires the observer to watch him performing it and how they need to copy it.
Now I realised how critical the observational processes to the learning. This morning I was watching one of my colleageu. To my view he is such a guy which always trying to demonstrate how to be a good person, not to mention a good muslim. It happened he park his car not in the spaces provided but on the free spaces in front of the lots. Although there still plenty of places available he opted to parked at the free spaces which sometimes distracting and troubling other drivers to come in and out from the parking.
To me its proven how difficult to consistent all the times - what we say and what we do. This fellow talks so much about values in life. But in the case of demonstrating what being said is not always happen. Parking at the wrong place which sometimes troubling others implying of multiple characteristics of the person - selfish, ignorance, hard headed, intolerance, and such. I hope his action is not purposely demonstrated, or making personal assumption such as the thinking that later people will be parking here anyway. If that is the case I think we need to look back our own practices.
To be consistent in everything is not easy. Words and actions in reality not always comes together. Sometimes we likes to say something good or bad, but when comes to ourselves especially if the things critically related to our interest and favour the needs for consistency will no longer relevant. Either ways we should admit the importance of being consistent in life. Children need this in their learning process. Without proper examples their learning processes will be problematic and confusing.
Hopefully one day I could become a person that practice the right action and attitude, and always consistent in whatever I say to whatever I do. Because to I found that this is among the toughest things to do in my life...
Thank you for now...
Wish you all with happy life under His Blessings...
Its again about observational learning. I was taught by my parents, my teachers how important observation to the learning process. In fact in Islam its clearly stated when Rasulullah PBUH when he about to teach about performing solat. He requires the observer to watch him performing it and how they need to copy it.
Now I realised how critical the observational processes to the learning. This morning I was watching one of my colleageu. To my view he is such a guy which always trying to demonstrate how to be a good person, not to mention a good muslim. It happened he park his car not in the spaces provided but on the free spaces in front of the lots. Although there still plenty of places available he opted to parked at the free spaces which sometimes distracting and troubling other drivers to come in and out from the parking.
To me its proven how difficult to consistent all the times - what we say and what we do. This fellow talks so much about values in life. But in the case of demonstrating what being said is not always happen. Parking at the wrong place which sometimes troubling others implying of multiple characteristics of the person - selfish, ignorance, hard headed, intolerance, and such. I hope his action is not purposely demonstrated, or making personal assumption such as the thinking that later people will be parking here anyway. If that is the case I think we need to look back our own practices.
To be consistent in everything is not easy. Words and actions in reality not always comes together. Sometimes we likes to say something good or bad, but when comes to ourselves especially if the things critically related to our interest and favour the needs for consistency will no longer relevant. Either ways we should admit the importance of being consistent in life. Children need this in their learning process. Without proper examples their learning processes will be problematic and confusing.
Hopefully one day I could become a person that practice the right action and attitude, and always consistent in whatever I say to whatever I do. Because to I found that this is among the toughest things to do in my life...
Thank you for now...
Thursday, 13 September 2012
TASTE OF BEING A PARENT
Hi,
When I was having my lunch with my friend yesterday, I was feeling touched with what being said by him. We bumped out to discuss about bringing up children especially in deciding where to send them to school. He was mourning about how he misses the situation where he can be together with his son. To me he just misses his only son. Anyhow the story about how he got back the old relationships when he can perform the praying as jamaah with his son during his school break.
Actually he enroled his son at the boarding school. The issue started way back during the decision process of whether to send the boy to boarding school or not. It was his wife who eagerly to sent the boy to the school because everyone were talking about children pursuing studies at boarding school. It is everyone's hope to have their children schooling at that types of school - pride of the family I guess!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
To me it is more to the responsibility of bringin up the children. My understanding is simple. I really wanted to experience the difficulties of bringin up the children. I won't get that chance by sending them to the boarding school. It seems like the chances to be with is end the moment they enter the school. Because they will be there until finishin their school, and after that pursuing their study at higher level - colleges and universities. What make things worse is that after graduatin they start to think about their career and future life. To me their return to home is more to accassionally - during the school break when they are still in school or semester break once their in the college or university.
I told my friend that to me personally it is more to not just responsibility but also to the experience that I would like to taste...hahaha... Without this there will be no chance for me to get 'high blood pressure' or 'headache' or even 'migrane' ..... hahahaha during bringing them up. No chance to scream at them, no chance to argue with them, no chance to scold them, no chance to share the difficulties of growing older, because everything will be done remotely while they are in the boarding school or colleges.
Personally speaking I would say by 'tasting' the actual experience the difficulties of bringing up children that will make me more appreciate of being a parents, and also to my parents - how hard their experience in bringing me up and my other siblings. I missed that a lot.
Again it is back to the parents I would say in deciding where to send the children and how the experience they wants to be go through. To me I am happy to watch my children growing and share the challenges together. Hopefully this will influence my children's development to a more positive and effective way before they can become a well being person that can contribute not just to themselves and family but to other things and human kind - Insyaallah.
Bye for now and see you again in other more interesting issues.
Thank you
When I was having my lunch with my friend yesterday, I was feeling touched with what being said by him. We bumped out to discuss about bringing up children especially in deciding where to send them to school. He was mourning about how he misses the situation where he can be together with his son. To me he just misses his only son. Anyhow the story about how he got back the old relationships when he can perform the praying as jamaah with his son during his school break.
Actually he enroled his son at the boarding school. The issue started way back during the decision process of whether to send the boy to boarding school or not. It was his wife who eagerly to sent the boy to the school because everyone were talking about children pursuing studies at boarding school. It is everyone's hope to have their children schooling at that types of school - pride of the family I guess!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
To me it is more to the responsibility of bringin up the children. My understanding is simple. I really wanted to experience the difficulties of bringin up the children. I won't get that chance by sending them to the boarding school. It seems like the chances to be with is end the moment they enter the school. Because they will be there until finishin their school, and after that pursuing their study at higher level - colleges and universities. What make things worse is that after graduatin they start to think about their career and future life. To me their return to home is more to accassionally - during the school break when they are still in school or semester break once their in the college or university.
I told my friend that to me personally it is more to not just responsibility but also to the experience that I would like to taste...hahaha... Without this there will be no chance for me to get 'high blood pressure' or 'headache' or even 'migrane' ..... hahahaha during bringing them up. No chance to scream at them, no chance to argue with them, no chance to scold them, no chance to share the difficulties of growing older, because everything will be done remotely while they are in the boarding school or colleges.
Personally speaking I would say by 'tasting' the actual experience the difficulties of bringing up children that will make me more appreciate of being a parents, and also to my parents - how hard their experience in bringing me up and my other siblings. I missed that a lot.
Again it is back to the parents I would say in deciding where to send the children and how the experience they wants to be go through. To me I am happy to watch my children growing and share the challenges together. Hopefully this will influence my children's development to a more positive and effective way before they can become a well being person that can contribute not just to themselves and family but to other things and human kind - Insyaallah.
Bye for now and see you again in other more interesting issues.
Thank you
Wednesday, 12 September 2012
IS IT TRUE THE TIME IS PRECIOUS?
Hi folks,
Meet again...wish you all with a great condition.
Today I would like to discuss about 'time'. Everybody knows how
precious the time is. Words like 'running out of time', 'time is golden' and alike all about time. Other related words such 'I am busy', 'I don't have enough sleep', or even the watches that we are wearing, all talking about time. Seems like we are dealing with time in our everyday life.
This morning I was chatting with my son about time. He forgot his watch for school. And infact to him he needs the watch desperately today because now he is sitting for his monthly test. We were chatting why he has forgotten his watch. At least he start to learn what I have said all this while about time. I did ask him to do preparation for school before he goes to bed - continously!!!! And yet the same thing happened.
Actually he needs to catch the bus to school before 6.15am every morning school. I told him it is not about his stuf, the bag, the watch, the money or else but it is about getting to the bus pickup point at 6.15am. Whatever he do he need to be there by that time or else the bus will left without him - and sadly to say he may missed the school!!!!!
The day before we did chat about doing preparation for exam. He understood doing the preparation is around 2 or 3 days before. Thats what he understood when to study and how. By having this situation at least I can relate the time to do revision with the needs of appreciating time. Infact now he slowly understand that he need to do revision all the time continuously, not on the specific day or dates. It is about learning not about preparing for exam!!!!!!!!! Once this being understood I hopw he will see the study is not for the exam and getting grades but more.
It is clear now that learning through experience and example is one of the most reliable and effective way in educating the children. One funny thing was also happened yesterday to my youngest son. He is now sitting for UPSR. Without realising what was happening, he was accidently forgotten his pencils and other writing stuff!!! Imagine how that can happen. Partly because of me, not doing double check with him before we went out for school.
One thing for sure is that they are in the learning process and guidance is always needed. Although we have explained and reminded them many times and continuously, still it happened. By understanding the processes that they need to learn and go through, we need to be patient without hesitance in guiding them continuously - even sometimes doublechecking to what they are doing!!!!!!!!! After all they our responsibility though - amanah!
The same thing to ourself when we are in a rush. Many similar things could happen when we are in a rush. Speeding, taking risk, missing the meeting and alike are examples of those consequences. It is true to be highlighted here that we are always in a disadvantage side if we so ignorance of the importance of time, as being said in Verse Al Asr in Quran. In fact we are running out of time - our age is not getting longer but shorter instead. Just like counting back on time - getting shorter to reach our end of the journey.
Thats all for now.
See you in other issues.
Monday, 10 September 2012
SELF-RESPECT
Hi folks,
Meet again...
I wish you all have a very nice Hari Raya...
I wish I am not late to wish you all happy Hari Raya and Maaf Zahir Bathin.
This time I would like to say about 'respect'. I have a chat with friends last Saturday about driving behaviour of the majority of the Malaysian motorists. As for information me right now are conducting study on accident proneness among Malaysian motorists (including me I guess haha...). Among the topic was on how the respectance attitude.
Nowadays we heard a lot about drivers who drove freely and without considering other people's feeling. And today, this morning again I saw several drivers, male and female, driving without considering other people's feeling, and unfortunately I was one of them...hahaha...As we know we are in hurry for various reasons every morning...rushing to work, taking kids to schools and many other things. It seems like cutting the line (the queue), jumping line as we like, driving slow, blocking the traffic flows and such becomes common feature of our driving life on the road.
We have been educated with lots of values, even in our religion desribe it clearly, but then the applications becomes alien and something unrelated to that. I still remember when I came back from the UK after completing my doctorate. Although I only been there for three and a half year, with lesson that I have learned back there I was anxiously tried to apllied it here. But suprising to me none of the driving style that I tried to do is working. Giving ways by flashing the light for instance has been understood differently. Here you may get bullied if you ignore the flashing light not like in the UK where flashing the light means giving the way.
Having said that quite interesting though not just to compare but to see the behaviour according to the local perspectives. If we look deeply, why people start flashing the light is related to both. The driver who flashing the light and also the other driver who sometimes blocking the traffic flows like driving slowly in the fast lane....it is pathetic.... Two issues that I have mentioned above clearly and slowly but certain become our common driving behaviour. We do know how much damage it can created....stress, disrespect, bullied...and I am not surprise if one day the people who got involve in this situations are relatives!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!hahaha...
The question here is that where does the problem starts, how, and the most critical parts is how do we dealing with that kind of situations. In our chatting we also discuss about the driving license application procedures. We tried to bring in two different perspectives - the UK and Malaysia.
As for now I just want to mention one very interesting issue - tha passing rate of the driving license application. In the UK people who are failed in the test is common but not in Malaysia. The issue here is that - the qualification to drive. If we know the applicants are not qualified to drive on the road why in certain situations we allow them to by giving the a license. It is us at the first place to get the blame.
I will come back to more interesting issues related to that as I see the situations as very much related to our life style not to mention learning process of the young ones. They actually learn through observing our behaviour..........
Thats all for now...happy driving and be safe...
Wassalam
This time I would like to say about 'respect'. I have a chat with friends last Saturday about driving behaviour of the majority of the Malaysian motorists. As for information me right now are conducting study on accident proneness among Malaysian motorists (including me I guess haha...). Among the topic was on how the respectance attitude.
Nowadays we heard a lot about drivers who drove freely and without considering other people's feeling. And today, this morning again I saw several drivers, male and female, driving without considering other people's feeling, and unfortunately I was one of them...hahaha...As we know we are in hurry for various reasons every morning...rushing to work, taking kids to schools and many other things. It seems like cutting the line (the queue), jumping line as we like, driving slow, blocking the traffic flows and such becomes common feature of our driving life on the road.
We have been educated with lots of values, even in our religion desribe it clearly, but then the applications becomes alien and something unrelated to that. I still remember when I came back from the UK after completing my doctorate. Although I only been there for three and a half year, with lesson that I have learned back there I was anxiously tried to apllied it here. But suprising to me none of the driving style that I tried to do is working. Giving ways by flashing the light for instance has been understood differently. Here you may get bullied if you ignore the flashing light not like in the UK where flashing the light means giving the way.
Having said that quite interesting though not just to compare but to see the behaviour according to the local perspectives. If we look deeply, why people start flashing the light is related to both. The driver who flashing the light and also the other driver who sometimes blocking the traffic flows like driving slowly in the fast lane....it is pathetic.... Two issues that I have mentioned above clearly and slowly but certain become our common driving behaviour. We do know how much damage it can created....stress, disrespect, bullied...and I am not surprise if one day the people who got involve in this situations are relatives!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!hahaha...
The question here is that where does the problem starts, how, and the most critical parts is how do we dealing with that kind of situations. In our chatting we also discuss about the driving license application procedures. We tried to bring in two different perspectives - the UK and Malaysia.
As for now I just want to mention one very interesting issue - tha passing rate of the driving license application. In the UK people who are failed in the test is common but not in Malaysia. The issue here is that - the qualification to drive. If we know the applicants are not qualified to drive on the road why in certain situations we allow them to by giving the a license. It is us at the first place to get the blame.
I will come back to more interesting issues related to that as I see the situations as very much related to our life style not to mention learning process of the young ones. They actually learn through observing our behaviour..........
Thats all for now...happy driving and be safe...
Wassalam
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