TASTE OF BEING A PARENT

Hi,

When I was having my lunch with my friend yesterday, I was feeling touched with what being said by him. We bumped out to discuss about bringing up children especially in deciding where to send them to school. He was mourning about how he misses the situation where he can be together with his son. To me he just misses his only son. Anyhow the story about how he got back the old relationships when he can perform the praying as jamaah with his son during his school break.

Actually he enroled his son at the boarding school. The issue started way back during the decision process of whether to send the boy to boarding school or not. It was his wife who eagerly to sent the boy to the school because everyone were talking about children pursuing studies at boarding school. It is everyone's hope to have their children schooling at that types of school - pride of the family I guess!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

To me it is more to the responsibility of bringin up the children. My understanding is simple. I really wanted to experience the difficulties of bringin up the children. I won't get that chance by sending them to the boarding school. It seems like the chances to be with is end the moment they enter the school. Because they will be there until finishin their school, and after that pursuing their study at higher level - colleges and universities. What make things worse is that after graduatin they start to think about their career and future life. To me their return to home is more to accassionally - during the school break when they are still in school or semester break once their in the college or university.

I told my friend that to me personally it is more to not just responsibility but also to the experience that I would like to taste...hahaha... Without this there will be no chance for me to get 'high blood pressure' or 'headache' or even 'migrane' ..... hahahaha during bringing them up. No chance to scream at them, no chance to argue with them, no chance to scold them, no chance to share the difficulties of growing older, because everything will be done remotely while they are in the boarding school or colleges.

Personally speaking I would say by 'tasting' the actual experience the difficulties of bringing up children that will make me more appreciate of being a parents, and also to my parents - how hard their experience in bringing me up and my other siblings. I missed that a lot.

Again it is back to the parents I would say in deciding where to send the children and how the experience they wants to be go through. To me I am happy to watch my children growing and share the challenges together. Hopefully this will influence my children's development to a more positive and effective way before they can become a well being person that can contribute not just to themselves and family but to other things and human kind - Insyaallah.

Bye for now and see you again in other more interesting issues.

Thank you