Hi,
Quite often when we do things we forget to see the consequences especially in the long run.
As an adult we are responsible in ensuring the message transition from us to our children is fulfilled.
I felt so sad when I saw many people just thinking of themselves without considering what is going to happen next. This afternoon I was on the way back from wedding invitation in Kota Tinggi, Johor, Malaysia. There was a jam somewhere around the Royal Military College at Ulu Tiram. The motorists were queuing 'impatiently'. Myself included. But I saw some drivers just took a short cut by passing other queuing motorists on the emergency lane. That action made the jam's worse because they will try to get back in the lane at the front.
To me the situation is very simple - follow the rules, keeps the line in order, and of course keep our patient!!! But instead many motorists opted to cut the line inconsiderately. To them that just only one single behaviour that is cutting the line. They should understand that it seems like a single behaviour but the consequences are varied. When they cut the line they actually disrespect other people. The move would also causes disappointment of others as well. If something happen in between that could cause quarrel or fighting at the worse. If they can see this as one they would not even thinking of doing that.
The same situation goes in education. We need to always remember that every single action will cause other related consequences. In a simple term we should always consider to what ever we were doing or even thinking of doing it.
In other words...phew...its not easy to be an adult....
To me the challenges always put me into a more fascinating world...
Thats all for now...
Sunday, 30 December 2012
Thursday, 8 November 2012
PUTTING THEORIES INTO PRACTICE
Hi all,
I think I have mentioned this before of being a parent. Today I would like to talk about being a mother. I am sure many would agree that to be a mother is one thing but educating the children is another thing.
Yesterday I was talking to my students regarding problems of being a mother. One of my students was sharing about her experiences educating her 3 year old son. She complaining about her difficulties of educating her son for not making mess on the house walls. To her she had done many things from telling to punishing. The discussion was so 'hot' and lot of ideas have been thrown by class member.
We tried to discuss the matter by using different perspectives of learning theories. Much have been said when we started to relate the matters with learning theories. The explanation through the discussion was interesting yet to some extent the class member became emotional...interesting to see them arguing issues by using theories.
And at the end of the discussion we came to a conclusion to argue back whose are really having problems...is it the child or is it the mother? I will continue discussing this matter in our next issue...
Very interesting...
Any comments...
Cheers...
I think I have mentioned this before of being a parent. Today I would like to talk about being a mother. I am sure many would agree that to be a mother is one thing but educating the children is another thing.
Yesterday I was talking to my students regarding problems of being a mother. One of my students was sharing about her experiences educating her 3 year old son. She complaining about her difficulties of educating her son for not making mess on the house walls. To her she had done many things from telling to punishing. The discussion was so 'hot' and lot of ideas have been thrown by class member.
We tried to discuss the matter by using different perspectives of learning theories. Much have been said when we started to relate the matters with learning theories. The explanation through the discussion was interesting yet to some extent the class member became emotional...interesting to see them arguing issues by using theories.
And at the end of the discussion we came to a conclusion to argue back whose are really having problems...is it the child or is it the mother? I will continue discussing this matter in our next issue...
Very interesting...
Any comments...
Cheers...
Saturday, 3 November 2012
EDUCATING CHILDREN ABOUT TIME
Hi all...meet again...
When we talk about time there are a lot can be discussed.
For some people time is precious. But interestingly some may say time is important but the way they deal with time does not shows any respect to the time.
Its true that people will always be in the disadvantages side if they failed to see the importance of time. Islam emphasised this clearly and firmly.
Inculcating the sense of time appreciating in children is not simple. The way they see the time is different to the way we see it. I have mentioned this before how struggle I am in educating my children to appreciate time.
This time around I managed to propose short phrases of appreciating time. As for my children they need to learn and to understand that "loosing time is easy but to get it back is impossible"!!!!!!!!!!
To me they need to be told by giving them enough analogies and examples. By giving more analogies which presented in variety of ways and perspectives they can see the importance of time clearly.
Lets say that an individual misses the flight. This actually gives no harm to the individual by the first sight. But if we ask them to look further than they will see a lot of trouble will come later following to the flight misses. Misses the plane is one thing which can be resolve simply by rebooking the next flight. But if we can show them further they will see more problems will be created just by missing the plane. The man will need to reschedule everything, his meeting perhaps, his money of course, and many other things. This is what the children should see and learn. At least not the event per se but how losing time will affect many other things.
This is important especially when we relates to other aspects such our daily time. Time table for example is in fact is considered as one way of learning about time. By having structured schedule of time we hopefully can manage our daily activities efficiently. That is why our children needs to learn timetable as way of appreciating time and not just as an activity of managing the daily activities. The understanding of this idea will hopefully be understood as an understanding of how importance of appreciating time in our life.
As at this point I would say that what ever scheduling or managing the daily activities we trying to convey to our children it should be presented as a process of learning to appreciate time.
Lastly but not least as I am always confident about is giving appropriate enough examples consistently. Pertinence to that I would like to talk about the characteristics that we should posses if we about to play an effective role as an educator or as a parent in our next discussion. Possessing enough competencies as an educator become paramount and of course will ensure the learning process of our children be implemented smoothly.
That's all for now.
See your again next time.
When we talk about time there are a lot can be discussed.
For some people time is precious. But interestingly some may say time is important but the way they deal with time does not shows any respect to the time.
Its true that people will always be in the disadvantages side if they failed to see the importance of time. Islam emphasised this clearly and firmly.
Inculcating the sense of time appreciating in children is not simple. The way they see the time is different to the way we see it. I have mentioned this before how struggle I am in educating my children to appreciate time.
This time around I managed to propose short phrases of appreciating time. As for my children they need to learn and to understand that "loosing time is easy but to get it back is impossible"!!!!!!!!!!
To me they need to be told by giving them enough analogies and examples. By giving more analogies which presented in variety of ways and perspectives they can see the importance of time clearly.
Lets say that an individual misses the flight. This actually gives no harm to the individual by the first sight. But if we ask them to look further than they will see a lot of trouble will come later following to the flight misses. Misses the plane is one thing which can be resolve simply by rebooking the next flight. But if we can show them further they will see more problems will be created just by missing the plane. The man will need to reschedule everything, his meeting perhaps, his money of course, and many other things. This is what the children should see and learn. At least not the event per se but how losing time will affect many other things.
This is important especially when we relates to other aspects such our daily time. Time table for example is in fact is considered as one way of learning about time. By having structured schedule of time we hopefully can manage our daily activities efficiently. That is why our children needs to learn timetable as way of appreciating time and not just as an activity of managing the daily activities. The understanding of this idea will hopefully be understood as an understanding of how importance of appreciating time in our life.
As at this point I would say that what ever scheduling or managing the daily activities we trying to convey to our children it should be presented as a process of learning to appreciate time.
Lastly but not least as I am always confident about is giving appropriate enough examples consistently. Pertinence to that I would like to talk about the characteristics that we should posses if we about to play an effective role as an educator or as a parent in our next discussion. Possessing enough competencies as an educator become paramount and of course will ensure the learning process of our children be implemented smoothly.
That's all for now.
See your again next time.
Tuesday, 23 October 2012
DOES CONSISTENCY MEANS ANYTHING TO US?
Hi,
What a fine morning today. My routine activities continues - making sure my children ready for school. I need to drop my elder son at the McDonald stop by 6.15 am every morning. Back from there I need to get my younger son ready because he need to be at school by 7am. He dislikes of getting to school late - I think because of years of practicing going to school early!!!
On the way to my younger son's school, we have a very nice chat about being consistent. Actually it is about a man who parked his MPV inconsiderately.
We saw his MPV was parked just around the road curb and making the visibility of other motorists a little bit dangerous. I just told my son that to be consistent in what ever we were doing is not easy ea....
Take that man as an example. We do not know for what reason he parked his MPV at the curbs. But what we do know is that to be consistent in our life is tough. At one moment we say something good and ethical but at the other we shows something different if not contradicted. The example that he has showed was completely contradicted to what he supposed to demonstrated.
There's something more interesting to talk about about this incident. I know that guy was dropping his children to board the bus to the school - Islamic school in Johor Bahru, Malaysia. I am pretty sure the objectives of him to enroll his children to that school is that to get the most of Islamic environment. Unfortunately he was unintentionally have showed some contradictions to his main objectives. At least his kids have learned something unethical that you can do what ever you want as long that suit you or making yourself comfortable.
The children need consistent example to grasp the whole idea of learning. Subject matters perhaps have been disseminated clearly and seriously by the teachers at school. Actually what the children needs is that the environment which consistent to what they have been taught by their teachers. That is how Islam is been recognised - a way of life !!!!!!
There are no separation between learning and information acquired - like what we always expected on the consistency between theory and practice...hahaha...Separating them means a lot to the learning process.
To me I always striving the best of me to being good in my life especially in inspiring my children's learning.
They means a lot to me. In fact I have learned so much from them.
Thursday, 18 October 2012
LEARNING IN CHILDREN
Hi folks,
We sometimes so eager in educating our children. Most of the time we anxiously expect our children to absorb, to practice and to grow up with what ever we have teaching them. Our expectation most of the time was clouded by our expectation without considering who is our children, what they are, how they learn, and so on.
If we look back to what being said by Piaget we know that children develop according to the stages. In this sense we really need to understand what stages our children are at. We don't need to be a psychologist to understand this but I would it is a basic requirement for everyone before they can become a parent. Without this I think we tend to impose if not forcing, the behaviours or attitudes to be practiced by our children.
My children for example, I can see the differennce between them. My eldest is a girl now age 18. My elder son is a boy and now age 14, and my youngest is a boy and he is 12. They are always be my inspiration in experiencing the parent's responsibility.
If I talk to my eldest something that little bit abstract, my youngest will struggling to get what we were talking about. And my elder son although a bit struggle but managed to grasp the story clearly and even share the thought together. In the other way, when we were talking about something concrete and visible all of them can understand and start sharing experiences even share our laugh together.
Now I can talk something related to possibilities easily to my eldest one as well as to my elder son but still need some explanation and elaboration to my youngest. He still struggling to see the connection between being good in academic to getting a good job or a good pay in future. That is why in many occassion we need to 'push' him little bit to engage in his study which I noticed less to his brother.
However, his logical thinking and associating was already appeared way back when he still five. He was saying "this pool will be like an ocean to this turtle". He was swimming in our small pool (pool that only at his waist depth which actually nor for swimming...hahaha) with his little turtle. He can associate the connection between the turtle size and the size of the pool. To him yes the pool is small, but not to his tiny little turtle....haha...I like the way he played with his turtle.
Anyway, the story above shows that children have a lot of potential to be explored both by him or by us as an adult. It just a matter of willingness and awareness of him and us to explore that. In his case it is me who need to recognise his potential at the first place before I can start guiding him recognising his potential.
Well, it is fun though to be a parent...observing the children growing up. Everyday will be different because the perspectives are different. I love you guys...you are all my inspiration...sharing experience with you day by day make our life fruitful...always wish you all the best in what ever you guys are doing.
To all wish you happy educating....
Taste every bit of the challenges of bringing up our children...you will see the difference...hahaha
Thank you...
We sometimes so eager in educating our children. Most of the time we anxiously expect our children to absorb, to practice and to grow up with what ever we have teaching them. Our expectation most of the time was clouded by our expectation without considering who is our children, what they are, how they learn, and so on.
If we look back to what being said by Piaget we know that children develop according to the stages. In this sense we really need to understand what stages our children are at. We don't need to be a psychologist to understand this but I would it is a basic requirement for everyone before they can become a parent. Without this I think we tend to impose if not forcing, the behaviours or attitudes to be practiced by our children.
My children for example, I can see the differennce between them. My eldest is a girl now age 18. My elder son is a boy and now age 14, and my youngest is a boy and he is 12. They are always be my inspiration in experiencing the parent's responsibility.
If I talk to my eldest something that little bit abstract, my youngest will struggling to get what we were talking about. And my elder son although a bit struggle but managed to grasp the story clearly and even share the thought together. In the other way, when we were talking about something concrete and visible all of them can understand and start sharing experiences even share our laugh together.
Now I can talk something related to possibilities easily to my eldest one as well as to my elder son but still need some explanation and elaboration to my youngest. He still struggling to see the connection between being good in academic to getting a good job or a good pay in future. That is why in many occassion we need to 'push' him little bit to engage in his study which I noticed less to his brother.
However, his logical thinking and associating was already appeared way back when he still five. He was saying "this pool will be like an ocean to this turtle". He was swimming in our small pool (pool that only at his waist depth which actually nor for swimming...hahaha) with his little turtle. He can associate the connection between the turtle size and the size of the pool. To him yes the pool is small, but not to his tiny little turtle....haha...I like the way he played with his turtle.
Anyway, the story above shows that children have a lot of potential to be explored both by him or by us as an adult. It just a matter of willingness and awareness of him and us to explore that. In his case it is me who need to recognise his potential at the first place before I can start guiding him recognising his potential.
Well, it is fun though to be a parent...observing the children growing up. Everyday will be different because the perspectives are different. I love you guys...you are all my inspiration...sharing experience with you day by day make our life fruitful...always wish you all the best in what ever you guys are doing.
To all wish you happy educating....
Taste every bit of the challenges of bringing up our children...you will see the difference...hahaha
Thank you...
SHOULD EDUCATION BE STARTED EARLY?
Hi guys,
I was amazed with what was happening last friday morning. I was walking heading back home with my elder son after jogging. We were chatting along the way, and I think it was a very good moment for both of us where we shared laugh together especially about doing physical activities.
He actually being dismissed from school because of PMR exam at his school. Every time exam start there will be some classes will be dismissed - i think just because of the attention and quiet time that the PMR examinees are needed. And for my son he really 'enjoy' the morning because going for jogging with me meaning he will 'missed' his sleeping after Subuh prayer....hahahaha...
When we were passing one of our neighbour houses, we were greeted by a young kid, very young I think not more than 5 years old by saying "hello uncle", many times. We just greeted back by saying "hello" back and "bye bye". I really amazed with that moment. Kids as young as that knows how to greet and befriend with his neighbour. That was the first time I was greeted by the boy actually.
That moment recalled me to the process of educating young generation. Piaget mentioned about the stages of development. Whereas Bandura did mentioned about observational learning. I think both were reflected clearly from that moment.
The boy would not be able to greet if he haven't been taught to do so. Well done to his parents!! My understanding is clear that if we want to inculcate positive attitude and behaviours in children it need to be done as early as possible. And of course the adult will play important roles in this situation. As father or mother or even the adult member of the society, it is their jobs and responsibilities not just to educate them but also to promote good examples to the children. Without this I think the process of learning good and positive behaviours will be more complicated.
In other words regardless of who they are, what races they are from, which belief they are embraces, the process of inculcating good behaviours and attitudes is pretty much the same. In fact in Islam it is clearly stated that the process need to be done as early as the baby still in the womb! We as parents or as adults in society should aware this all the time so that the process of educating young lad to become useful citizens is started early.
That's all for now and have a nice day.
Thank you.
I was amazed with what was happening last friday morning. I was walking heading back home with my elder son after jogging. We were chatting along the way, and I think it was a very good moment for both of us where we shared laugh together especially about doing physical activities.
He actually being dismissed from school because of PMR exam at his school. Every time exam start there will be some classes will be dismissed - i think just because of the attention and quiet time that the PMR examinees are needed. And for my son he really 'enjoy' the morning because going for jogging with me meaning he will 'missed' his sleeping after Subuh prayer....hahahaha...
When we were passing one of our neighbour houses, we were greeted by a young kid, very young I think not more than 5 years old by saying "hello uncle", many times. We just greeted back by saying "hello" back and "bye bye". I really amazed with that moment. Kids as young as that knows how to greet and befriend with his neighbour. That was the first time I was greeted by the boy actually.
That moment recalled me to the process of educating young generation. Piaget mentioned about the stages of development. Whereas Bandura did mentioned about observational learning. I think both were reflected clearly from that moment.
The boy would not be able to greet if he haven't been taught to do so. Well done to his parents!! My understanding is clear that if we want to inculcate positive attitude and behaviours in children it need to be done as early as possible. And of course the adult will play important roles in this situation. As father or mother or even the adult member of the society, it is their jobs and responsibilities not just to educate them but also to promote good examples to the children. Without this I think the process of learning good and positive behaviours will be more complicated.
In other words regardless of who they are, what races they are from, which belief they are embraces, the process of inculcating good behaviours and attitudes is pretty much the same. In fact in Islam it is clearly stated that the process need to be done as early as the baby still in the womb! We as parents or as adults in society should aware this all the time so that the process of educating young lad to become useful citizens is started early.
That's all for now and have a nice day.
Thank you.
Sunday, 30 September 2012
MISTAKES IN REGARDS TO LEARNING
Hi folks...
One thing that I found so difficult to do was admitting our own mistakes. Not to mention of the willingness of accepting criticisms, admitting mistakes are not an easy job to do.
In learning, we know that before we started to consider of doing the improvement we need to admit the mistakes that we have committed first. After then we start to think of correction plan and activities related to the mistakes.
I always reminded my children the connection between mistakes and improvement. Just like what Alfred has said to the young Bruce...why he fall..because he can learn to pick himself up....
Even in Islam it is clearly stated that the process of reflection need to be done all the time continuously. Today supposed to be better than yesterday...and tomorrow should be better than today. What ever we say, reflecting on the past, especially on the mistakes that we have committed is crucial for the betterment of our lives.
We sometimes failed to see the importance of mistakes in learning. Seems that we afraid to allow our learner of making mistakes. Piaget did mention about equilibrium and disequilibrium in the mind. Both are important in stimulating the learner's learning process. Mistakes in this sense will allow the learner to see the learning in more comprehensive manner...what gone wrong...why...how...or even to the extent of how to avoid making same mistakes for second or several times. The process of maturity will not be developed not until the learner able to see the problem in more comprehensive manner.
Taking the point that nobody in perfect...this understanding I think is important to the learning. Too much emphasise to the mistakes will only enhancing the chances of developing fear and afraidness among learners. In fact in learning those feelings and attitude should not be encouraged. The dangerous parts is that we develop the feeling of fear without intention....
Wise guidance in terms of mistakes tolerance is needed I would say. In terms of learning the robust personality in dealing with mistakes and improvement is the ultimate challenge for us.
Lets try how we can educate our children while dealing with the mistakes...
Thank you.
One thing that I found so difficult to do was admitting our own mistakes. Not to mention of the willingness of accepting criticisms, admitting mistakes are not an easy job to do.
In learning, we know that before we started to consider of doing the improvement we need to admit the mistakes that we have committed first. After then we start to think of correction plan and activities related to the mistakes.
I always reminded my children the connection between mistakes and improvement. Just like what Alfred has said to the young Bruce...why he fall..because he can learn to pick himself up....
Even in Islam it is clearly stated that the process of reflection need to be done all the time continuously. Today supposed to be better than yesterday...and tomorrow should be better than today. What ever we say, reflecting on the past, especially on the mistakes that we have committed is crucial for the betterment of our lives.
We sometimes failed to see the importance of mistakes in learning. Seems that we afraid to allow our learner of making mistakes. Piaget did mention about equilibrium and disequilibrium in the mind. Both are important in stimulating the learner's learning process. Mistakes in this sense will allow the learner to see the learning in more comprehensive manner...what gone wrong...why...how...or even to the extent of how to avoid making same mistakes for second or several times. The process of maturity will not be developed not until the learner able to see the problem in more comprehensive manner.
Taking the point that nobody in perfect...this understanding I think is important to the learning. Too much emphasise to the mistakes will only enhancing the chances of developing fear and afraidness among learners. In fact in learning those feelings and attitude should not be encouraged. The dangerous parts is that we develop the feeling of fear without intention....
Wise guidance in terms of mistakes tolerance is needed I would say. In terms of learning the robust personality in dealing with mistakes and improvement is the ultimate challenge for us.
Lets try how we can educate our children while dealing with the mistakes...
Thank you.
BOND BETWEEN PARENTS AND CHILD
Hi Guys...
When we say that the relationships between the learner and the teacher is crucial, much need to be discussed as this can be understood in many ways.
I found that the bond between father and the children can be developed in various ways. I just want to share my little experience of developing the bonds between me and my children. I found that the connections need to be as close as possible. By having this we can transmit a lot of information and skills they require.
Having said that in my case I developed the connection in a very funny situation. Actually I cut my son's hair myself. I am not doing that to my daughter since my barber's skills is just for men....hahaha... I have done that since they were young...I mean when they started to have hair....hahaha....I cut their hair myself ever since. They likes my cutting style so far as until now they still wanted their hair to be cut by me. Although this practice is not done intentionally but later I found that does really nice in developing bond between me and my children.
Its an interesting time really when I managed to get to talk to them personally and closely. While trimming their hair I can talk to them...giving advice..sharing ideas...arguing things...and sometimes we share laugh together. Teasing out and joking are among other things we were engaging in and don't be surprised I managed to get to know so many stories about them. We learn many common things among ourselves....
I found that although I am quite strict in rules and activities they have no problem in observing and following the standard that I have set. I don't know so far because this have yet to be seen not until they reaches the specific levels like career world. I hope all we have done although unintentionally will be worthwhile and have positive impacts especially in the long run.
Lessons that I have learned from this is that we normally find so difficult to have a quality time with our children but by having this kind of activity I am sure that there are so much fun can be shared and to be explore with and at the same time the process of conveying messages will becomes effective.
Ok that's all for now..
Thank you.
When we say that the relationships between the learner and the teacher is crucial, much need to be discussed as this can be understood in many ways.
I found that the bond between father and the children can be developed in various ways. I just want to share my little experience of developing the bonds between me and my children. I found that the connections need to be as close as possible. By having this we can transmit a lot of information and skills they require.
Having said that in my case I developed the connection in a very funny situation. Actually I cut my son's hair myself. I am not doing that to my daughter since my barber's skills is just for men....hahaha... I have done that since they were young...I mean when they started to have hair....hahaha....I cut their hair myself ever since. They likes my cutting style so far as until now they still wanted their hair to be cut by me. Although this practice is not done intentionally but later I found that does really nice in developing bond between me and my children.
Its an interesting time really when I managed to get to talk to them personally and closely. While trimming their hair I can talk to them...giving advice..sharing ideas...arguing things...and sometimes we share laugh together. Teasing out and joking are among other things we were engaging in and don't be surprised I managed to get to know so many stories about them. We learn many common things among ourselves....
I found that although I am quite strict in rules and activities they have no problem in observing and following the standard that I have set. I don't know so far because this have yet to be seen not until they reaches the specific levels like career world. I hope all we have done although unintentionally will be worthwhile and have positive impacts especially in the long run.
Lessons that I have learned from this is that we normally find so difficult to have a quality time with our children but by having this kind of activity I am sure that there are so much fun can be shared and to be explore with and at the same time the process of conveying messages will becomes effective.
Ok that's all for now..
Thank you.
MEANING IN LEARNING
Hi guys,
I managed to play tennis today. After a long break of playing I finally came to the court and play a set...single game set!!!! Incredible. I didn't realised that I still can play tennis that well. Thanks to Ken (Visiting Professor from Edith Cowen University, Australia). This time around he successfully beat me. He lost in our last meeting and managed to 'revenge' this time. 'Thanks' to my racquet which strings got snapped right before we begin the match (Not an excuse though). If I am using my own racquet the result would have been the same like last time...haha...sorry Ken. But anyhow, your game was tremendously improved especially on your service and backhand.
I am actually would like to say little bit about meaning. In learning 'meaning' is everything. Teaching can be considered as effective and successful if it can create meaning to the learner. Without meaning there will be no interest in learning. The learner cannot see the purpose of learning in specific which make them lost interest or even worst.
One of my friend was asking about some decisions that he need to be making. Perhaps I got that wrong but the way he asked seems to me was more to his understanding but not to me. Although I do understand what he was trying to say but the way he was asking does not consider the understanding of the person which he was asking to.
"Boleh tak aku ambil kabinet kalau aku jual rumah (Can I take the cabinet if I sell my house)"
At the beginning I didn't get he meant but later after some digestions and clarifications I managed to understand it. He actually referring to whether he can take his kitchen which mean not included in the selling agreement. Or in other words the house is sold without kitchen cabinet.
Interesting really when I relate this situation to learning. How do learner to find the learning as important if we failed to create meaning the learning itself. Learner will be more attracted to something where they found it interesting and have meaning to themselves. In other words making meaning to the learning is crucial if we about to make the learning fun and effective.
Sometimes or perhaps most of the time we just think about ourselves as the teacher. That is why we always struggling in encouraging the learning among our learners. What more important is that how we consider the learning activities according to the learners need and understanding. Without this I don't think the learning can be delivered effectively.
Even sometimes people say that...if we want to understand our learner's understanding and feelings try put on their shoes...By doing so at least we can get to know how the learning should be delivered.
Okay...that's all for now.
Being a teacher does not necessarily ignoring the needs of the learner. A good teacher is also supposed to be a good learner at the same time.
Thank you.
I managed to play tennis today. After a long break of playing I finally came to the court and play a set...single game set!!!! Incredible. I didn't realised that I still can play tennis that well. Thanks to Ken (Visiting Professor from Edith Cowen University, Australia). This time around he successfully beat me. He lost in our last meeting and managed to 'revenge' this time. 'Thanks' to my racquet which strings got snapped right before we begin the match (Not an excuse though). If I am using my own racquet the result would have been the same like last time...haha...sorry Ken. But anyhow, your game was tremendously improved especially on your service and backhand.
I am actually would like to say little bit about meaning. In learning 'meaning' is everything. Teaching can be considered as effective and successful if it can create meaning to the learner. Without meaning there will be no interest in learning. The learner cannot see the purpose of learning in specific which make them lost interest or even worst.
One of my friend was asking about some decisions that he need to be making. Perhaps I got that wrong but the way he asked seems to me was more to his understanding but not to me. Although I do understand what he was trying to say but the way he was asking does not consider the understanding of the person which he was asking to.
"Boleh tak aku ambil kabinet kalau aku jual rumah (Can I take the cabinet if I sell my house)"
At the beginning I didn't get he meant but later after some digestions and clarifications I managed to understand it. He actually referring to whether he can take his kitchen which mean not included in the selling agreement. Or in other words the house is sold without kitchen cabinet.
Interesting really when I relate this situation to learning. How do learner to find the learning as important if we failed to create meaning the learning itself. Learner will be more attracted to something where they found it interesting and have meaning to themselves. In other words making meaning to the learning is crucial if we about to make the learning fun and effective.
Sometimes or perhaps most of the time we just think about ourselves as the teacher. That is why we always struggling in encouraging the learning among our learners. What more important is that how we consider the learning activities according to the learners need and understanding. Without this I don't think the learning can be delivered effectively.
Even sometimes people say that...if we want to understand our learner's understanding and feelings try put on their shoes...By doing so at least we can get to know how the learning should be delivered.
Okay...that's all for now.
Being a teacher does not necessarily ignoring the needs of the learner. A good teacher is also supposed to be a good learner at the same time.
Thank you.
Friday, 21 September 2012
OBSERVATIONAL LEARNING AGAIN...
Assalamualaikum...
Wish you all with happy life under His Blessings...
Its again about observational learning. I was taught by my parents, my teachers how important observation to the learning process. In fact in Islam its clearly stated when Rasulullah PBUH when he about to teach about performing solat. He requires the observer to watch him performing it and how they need to copy it.
Now I realised how critical the observational processes to the learning. This morning I was watching one of my colleageu. To my view he is such a guy which always trying to demonstrate how to be a good person, not to mention a good muslim. It happened he park his car not in the spaces provided but on the free spaces in front of the lots. Although there still plenty of places available he opted to parked at the free spaces which sometimes distracting and troubling other drivers to come in and out from the parking.
To me its proven how difficult to consistent all the times - what we say and what we do. This fellow talks so much about values in life. But in the case of demonstrating what being said is not always happen. Parking at the wrong place which sometimes troubling others implying of multiple characteristics of the person - selfish, ignorance, hard headed, intolerance, and such. I hope his action is not purposely demonstrated, or making personal assumption such as the thinking that later people will be parking here anyway. If that is the case I think we need to look back our own practices.
To be consistent in everything is not easy. Words and actions in reality not always comes together. Sometimes we likes to say something good or bad, but when comes to ourselves especially if the things critically related to our interest and favour the needs for consistency will no longer relevant. Either ways we should admit the importance of being consistent in life. Children need this in their learning process. Without proper examples their learning processes will be problematic and confusing.
Hopefully one day I could become a person that practice the right action and attitude, and always consistent in whatever I say to whatever I do. Because to I found that this is among the toughest things to do in my life...
Thank you for now...
Wish you all with happy life under His Blessings...
Its again about observational learning. I was taught by my parents, my teachers how important observation to the learning process. In fact in Islam its clearly stated when Rasulullah PBUH when he about to teach about performing solat. He requires the observer to watch him performing it and how they need to copy it.
Now I realised how critical the observational processes to the learning. This morning I was watching one of my colleageu. To my view he is such a guy which always trying to demonstrate how to be a good person, not to mention a good muslim. It happened he park his car not in the spaces provided but on the free spaces in front of the lots. Although there still plenty of places available he opted to parked at the free spaces which sometimes distracting and troubling other drivers to come in and out from the parking.
To me its proven how difficult to consistent all the times - what we say and what we do. This fellow talks so much about values in life. But in the case of demonstrating what being said is not always happen. Parking at the wrong place which sometimes troubling others implying of multiple characteristics of the person - selfish, ignorance, hard headed, intolerance, and such. I hope his action is not purposely demonstrated, or making personal assumption such as the thinking that later people will be parking here anyway. If that is the case I think we need to look back our own practices.
To be consistent in everything is not easy. Words and actions in reality not always comes together. Sometimes we likes to say something good or bad, but when comes to ourselves especially if the things critically related to our interest and favour the needs for consistency will no longer relevant. Either ways we should admit the importance of being consistent in life. Children need this in their learning process. Without proper examples their learning processes will be problematic and confusing.
Hopefully one day I could become a person that practice the right action and attitude, and always consistent in whatever I say to whatever I do. Because to I found that this is among the toughest things to do in my life...
Thank you for now...
Thursday, 13 September 2012
TASTE OF BEING A PARENT
Hi,
When I was having my lunch with my friend yesterday, I was feeling touched with what being said by him. We bumped out to discuss about bringing up children especially in deciding where to send them to school. He was mourning about how he misses the situation where he can be together with his son. To me he just misses his only son. Anyhow the story about how he got back the old relationships when he can perform the praying as jamaah with his son during his school break.
Actually he enroled his son at the boarding school. The issue started way back during the decision process of whether to send the boy to boarding school or not. It was his wife who eagerly to sent the boy to the school because everyone were talking about children pursuing studies at boarding school. It is everyone's hope to have their children schooling at that types of school - pride of the family I guess!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
To me it is more to the responsibility of bringin up the children. My understanding is simple. I really wanted to experience the difficulties of bringin up the children. I won't get that chance by sending them to the boarding school. It seems like the chances to be with is end the moment they enter the school. Because they will be there until finishin their school, and after that pursuing their study at higher level - colleges and universities. What make things worse is that after graduatin they start to think about their career and future life. To me their return to home is more to accassionally - during the school break when they are still in school or semester break once their in the college or university.
I told my friend that to me personally it is more to not just responsibility but also to the experience that I would like to taste...hahaha... Without this there will be no chance for me to get 'high blood pressure' or 'headache' or even 'migrane' ..... hahahaha during bringing them up. No chance to scream at them, no chance to argue with them, no chance to scold them, no chance to share the difficulties of growing older, because everything will be done remotely while they are in the boarding school or colleges.
Personally speaking I would say by 'tasting' the actual experience the difficulties of bringing up children that will make me more appreciate of being a parents, and also to my parents - how hard their experience in bringing me up and my other siblings. I missed that a lot.
Again it is back to the parents I would say in deciding where to send the children and how the experience they wants to be go through. To me I am happy to watch my children growing and share the challenges together. Hopefully this will influence my children's development to a more positive and effective way before they can become a well being person that can contribute not just to themselves and family but to other things and human kind - Insyaallah.
Bye for now and see you again in other more interesting issues.
Thank you
When I was having my lunch with my friend yesterday, I was feeling touched with what being said by him. We bumped out to discuss about bringing up children especially in deciding where to send them to school. He was mourning about how he misses the situation where he can be together with his son. To me he just misses his only son. Anyhow the story about how he got back the old relationships when he can perform the praying as jamaah with his son during his school break.
Actually he enroled his son at the boarding school. The issue started way back during the decision process of whether to send the boy to boarding school or not. It was his wife who eagerly to sent the boy to the school because everyone were talking about children pursuing studies at boarding school. It is everyone's hope to have their children schooling at that types of school - pride of the family I guess!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
To me it is more to the responsibility of bringin up the children. My understanding is simple. I really wanted to experience the difficulties of bringin up the children. I won't get that chance by sending them to the boarding school. It seems like the chances to be with is end the moment they enter the school. Because they will be there until finishin their school, and after that pursuing their study at higher level - colleges and universities. What make things worse is that after graduatin they start to think about their career and future life. To me their return to home is more to accassionally - during the school break when they are still in school or semester break once their in the college or university.
I told my friend that to me personally it is more to not just responsibility but also to the experience that I would like to taste...hahaha... Without this there will be no chance for me to get 'high blood pressure' or 'headache' or even 'migrane' ..... hahahaha during bringing them up. No chance to scream at them, no chance to argue with them, no chance to scold them, no chance to share the difficulties of growing older, because everything will be done remotely while they are in the boarding school or colleges.
Personally speaking I would say by 'tasting' the actual experience the difficulties of bringing up children that will make me more appreciate of being a parents, and also to my parents - how hard their experience in bringing me up and my other siblings. I missed that a lot.
Again it is back to the parents I would say in deciding where to send the children and how the experience they wants to be go through. To me I am happy to watch my children growing and share the challenges together. Hopefully this will influence my children's development to a more positive and effective way before they can become a well being person that can contribute not just to themselves and family but to other things and human kind - Insyaallah.
Bye for now and see you again in other more interesting issues.
Thank you
Wednesday, 12 September 2012
IS IT TRUE THE TIME IS PRECIOUS?
Hi folks,
Meet again...wish you all with a great condition.
Today I would like to discuss about 'time'. Everybody knows how
precious the time is. Words like 'running out of time', 'time is golden' and alike all about time. Other related words such 'I am busy', 'I don't have enough sleep', or even the watches that we are wearing, all talking about time. Seems like we are dealing with time in our everyday life.
This morning I was chatting with my son about time. He forgot his watch for school. And infact to him he needs the watch desperately today because now he is sitting for his monthly test. We were chatting why he has forgotten his watch. At least he start to learn what I have said all this while about time. I did ask him to do preparation for school before he goes to bed - continously!!!! And yet the same thing happened.
Actually he needs to catch the bus to school before 6.15am every morning school. I told him it is not about his stuf, the bag, the watch, the money or else but it is about getting to the bus pickup point at 6.15am. Whatever he do he need to be there by that time or else the bus will left without him - and sadly to say he may missed the school!!!!!
The day before we did chat about doing preparation for exam. He understood doing the preparation is around 2 or 3 days before. Thats what he understood when to study and how. By having this situation at least I can relate the time to do revision with the needs of appreciating time. Infact now he slowly understand that he need to do revision all the time continuously, not on the specific day or dates. It is about learning not about preparing for exam!!!!!!!!! Once this being understood I hopw he will see the study is not for the exam and getting grades but more.
It is clear now that learning through experience and example is one of the most reliable and effective way in educating the children. One funny thing was also happened yesterday to my youngest son. He is now sitting for UPSR. Without realising what was happening, he was accidently forgotten his pencils and other writing stuff!!! Imagine how that can happen. Partly because of me, not doing double check with him before we went out for school.
One thing for sure is that they are in the learning process and guidance is always needed. Although we have explained and reminded them many times and continuously, still it happened. By understanding the processes that they need to learn and go through, we need to be patient without hesitance in guiding them continuously - even sometimes doublechecking to what they are doing!!!!!!!!! After all they our responsibility though - amanah!
The same thing to ourself when we are in a rush. Many similar things could happen when we are in a rush. Speeding, taking risk, missing the meeting and alike are examples of those consequences. It is true to be highlighted here that we are always in a disadvantage side if we so ignorance of the importance of time, as being said in Verse Al Asr in Quran. In fact we are running out of time - our age is not getting longer but shorter instead. Just like counting back on time - getting shorter to reach our end of the journey.
Thats all for now.
See you in other issues.
Monday, 10 September 2012
SELF-RESPECT
Hi folks,
Meet again...
I wish you all have a very nice Hari Raya...
I wish I am not late to wish you all happy Hari Raya and Maaf Zahir Bathin.
This time I would like to say about 'respect'. I have a chat with friends last Saturday about driving behaviour of the majority of the Malaysian motorists. As for information me right now are conducting study on accident proneness among Malaysian motorists (including me I guess haha...). Among the topic was on how the respectance attitude.
Nowadays we heard a lot about drivers who drove freely and without considering other people's feeling. And today, this morning again I saw several drivers, male and female, driving without considering other people's feeling, and unfortunately I was one of them...hahaha...As we know we are in hurry for various reasons every morning...rushing to work, taking kids to schools and many other things. It seems like cutting the line (the queue), jumping line as we like, driving slow, blocking the traffic flows and such becomes common feature of our driving life on the road.
We have been educated with lots of values, even in our religion desribe it clearly, but then the applications becomes alien and something unrelated to that. I still remember when I came back from the UK after completing my doctorate. Although I only been there for three and a half year, with lesson that I have learned back there I was anxiously tried to apllied it here. But suprising to me none of the driving style that I tried to do is working. Giving ways by flashing the light for instance has been understood differently. Here you may get bullied if you ignore the flashing light not like in the UK where flashing the light means giving the way.
Having said that quite interesting though not just to compare but to see the behaviour according to the local perspectives. If we look deeply, why people start flashing the light is related to both. The driver who flashing the light and also the other driver who sometimes blocking the traffic flows like driving slowly in the fast lane....it is pathetic.... Two issues that I have mentioned above clearly and slowly but certain become our common driving behaviour. We do know how much damage it can created....stress, disrespect, bullied...and I am not surprise if one day the people who got involve in this situations are relatives!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!hahaha...
The question here is that where does the problem starts, how, and the most critical parts is how do we dealing with that kind of situations. In our chatting we also discuss about the driving license application procedures. We tried to bring in two different perspectives - the UK and Malaysia.
As for now I just want to mention one very interesting issue - tha passing rate of the driving license application. In the UK people who are failed in the test is common but not in Malaysia. The issue here is that - the qualification to drive. If we know the applicants are not qualified to drive on the road why in certain situations we allow them to by giving the a license. It is us at the first place to get the blame.
I will come back to more interesting issues related to that as I see the situations as very much related to our life style not to mention learning process of the young ones. They actually learn through observing our behaviour..........
Thats all for now...happy driving and be safe...
Wassalam
This time I would like to say about 'respect'. I have a chat with friends last Saturday about driving behaviour of the majority of the Malaysian motorists. As for information me right now are conducting study on accident proneness among Malaysian motorists (including me I guess haha...). Among the topic was on how the respectance attitude.
Nowadays we heard a lot about drivers who drove freely and without considering other people's feeling. And today, this morning again I saw several drivers, male and female, driving without considering other people's feeling, and unfortunately I was one of them...hahaha...As we know we are in hurry for various reasons every morning...rushing to work, taking kids to schools and many other things. It seems like cutting the line (the queue), jumping line as we like, driving slow, blocking the traffic flows and such becomes common feature of our driving life on the road.
We have been educated with lots of values, even in our religion desribe it clearly, but then the applications becomes alien and something unrelated to that. I still remember when I came back from the UK after completing my doctorate. Although I only been there for three and a half year, with lesson that I have learned back there I was anxiously tried to apllied it here. But suprising to me none of the driving style that I tried to do is working. Giving ways by flashing the light for instance has been understood differently. Here you may get bullied if you ignore the flashing light not like in the UK where flashing the light means giving the way.
Having said that quite interesting though not just to compare but to see the behaviour according to the local perspectives. If we look deeply, why people start flashing the light is related to both. The driver who flashing the light and also the other driver who sometimes blocking the traffic flows like driving slowly in the fast lane....it is pathetic.... Two issues that I have mentioned above clearly and slowly but certain become our common driving behaviour. We do know how much damage it can created....stress, disrespect, bullied...and I am not surprise if one day the people who got involve in this situations are relatives!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!hahaha...
The question here is that where does the problem starts, how, and the most critical parts is how do we dealing with that kind of situations. In our chatting we also discuss about the driving license application procedures. We tried to bring in two different perspectives - the UK and Malaysia.
As for now I just want to mention one very interesting issue - tha passing rate of the driving license application. In the UK people who are failed in the test is common but not in Malaysia. The issue here is that - the qualification to drive. If we know the applicants are not qualified to drive on the road why in certain situations we allow them to by giving the a license. It is us at the first place to get the blame.
I will come back to more interesting issues related to that as I see the situations as very much related to our life style not to mention learning process of the young ones. They actually learn through observing our behaviour..........
Thats all for now...happy driving and be safe...
Wassalam
Tuesday, 14 August 2012
THE MEANING OF LOVE
Hi,
Meet again.
We are now approaching the end of Ramadhan – the last and the most critical
parts of the month. Not many willing to keep up with the night activities like ‘tarawih’,
‘tadarus’ and such because of various reasons.
Anyhow, I
would like to talk about learning responsibility. What come across to our mind
I supposed is that the teacher has to shoulder all the responsibility of the
student’s learning. Last Saturday I was outstation in Segamat, Johor Malaysia. I
was accidently met with a guy, around 60’s, while having my supper at the mamak
stall. He looks sad and unhappy. We have a chat quite long until 12 am in the
morning. Among the story was that he was talking about his children as for him
has ‘abandoned’ him without reason. Now he stayed at home alone although some
of his children have the opportunity to look after him but neglected him
instead.
In regards
to education I would say that the children should understand and realised what
responsibility they should shoulder. They need to see their father in a
different way, however worse or bad the father have done according to their
perception, they still need to respect him as a person called father.
I still
remember myself saying something ‘unnecessary’ to my mom and I am still regretted
until now. It seems that asking apologies from my mom, whenever possible is not
enough to heal my mom’s feelings, although she knows that the incident happened
was unintentionally. I know my mom very well and she knows me too. But like I said
the forgiveness that my mom’s have given cannot replace the regret that develops
in my heart. To me now it is true that we cannot even say or showing a bad
attitudes or behaviours to our parents. Forgiveness granted still cannot heal
the cuts that created especially in our parents’ heart.
Abandoning or
neglecting parents as conclusion shouldn’t be happened nowadays. Our regret
will be higher especially when they are not here in this world anymore. I wish
I could help the man to get back his children and to tell the children how much
he loves them. For me, my dad now is not here as well as my mom, physically but
to me they always in my heart, close very close – just missed them. I wish this
story is reaching the people like the above family and learn a bit from it one
day.
See you
again in another issue.
Happy
Ramadhan and Eid Fitri.
Thank you.
Friday, 10 August 2012
FRIENDS AND FRIENDSHIPS
Hi folks,
Long time break…just got trap with my daily life…routine I
would say..haha..
Today I am going to talk about friends.
There are many types of friends…what so called friend…the
good one the bad one…
It’s about my youngest who was yesterday received friends to
our home. As classmates I don’t think he has the power to say ‘no’ if they
wanted to come over. Cut the story short, it happened where some of them were
found drinking juice from our fridge. It’s not a big deal really but this is
fasting month. My wife was complaining about my youngest friend’s attitude. It
was not right for them to drink during ramadhan…they already in year 6, 12
years old!
(read more about friend from FRIENDS)
I have the chance to talk to my son this morning, on the way
to sending him to school. We were chatting about the yesterday’s incident. It
is not the issue of not allowing his friend to come but more to what lesson he
learnt from it. Now he realised that there are many types of friends..the good
one and the ‘bad’ one…there are friends that we can get along all the time –
what we called a ‘good’ friend…and there are also friends that we still can get
along but not all the time – what we called a ‘bad’ friend.
I managed to bring one example about somebody that he knows
very well. The discussion is about how that person always got problems in his
schooling life – because of choosing ‘wrong’ friends. At the end of the day he
was not that successful in his SPM - and
now lingering around with his ‘friend’ and looking for the best for his future.
The point here is how we see our friend according to our expectation and bring
out into perspectives. At least my son has learnt something today that not all
friends like to see us successful in life – intentionally or untentionally!
Adios guys. That’s all for today. Hope this will give some
thought to think about what so called friend.
Cheers…
See you again next time.
Bye for now.
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